Day 17

Random Fact Wednesday:

I almost always say "My pleasure" whenever anyone thanks me. This is partly because I like saying it (it just sounds better than "You're welcome"), and partly because I said it for 7 years while working at Chick-fil-A (the best Chick-fil-A ever, by the way). It didn't come natural when I first started working there, but now I say it without even thinking.  

Well, this morning I had to force myself to say "You're welcome". I held the door open for a lady as I was going into Chick-fil-A for a free breakfast entree. She thanked me for holding the door, and I was about to say "My pleasure", but then I thought it would probably sound weird to her to have a fellow customer say that to her, when the employee at the front counter had just said the same thing. So I managed a quick "You're welcome" before she walked past. 

It's funny how much those 2 words are ingrained in me. But I enjoy saying it, so it's cool. :)

Day 16

Better late than never!

Today is national coffee day. Seems a bit funny that there's pretty much a national day for every thing in the world. But sometimes it's fun to "celebrate" the day, like today.
I used the chocolate coffee beans that I made yesterday, to put on top of coffee chocolate cupcakes. And I put chocolate pudding in the middle too. They are so yummy! :) Baking is definitely a good way to celebrate coffee day.

Day 15

I'm half way through my 30-day challenge. Only another 15 days to go. Wow, it seems like I just started.

This morning I was trying to find chocolate-covered coffee beans, which I was going to use in a recipe I'm making tomorrow. Well, Walmart and Harris Teeter and Food Lion all did not have any. What? I thought for sure that Walmart would have some.
Anyway, so when I got home from shopping, I made some homemade chocolate. Then I dipped some coffee beans in it, and froze them. So now I have homemade chocolate coffee beans. When I can't find something at the store, I like to improvise. :) And they're better for me than the sore-bought stuff anyway.

Have a good day, everyone!

Day 14

My dream house might just be my future home. :)
When we looked at it today, we really really liked it. It's on almost a half acre, with plenty of room for a veggie garden. The master bedroom is very big, which is nice. And I love the wrap around porch.
Again, we're very hopeful and excited. We're gonna look at our finances and make sure we can afford this house, since it is closer to our max amount.
If you can pray for us, that would be great!

Day 13

We found a house that we really like, in a country-ish area. We're still looking at 2 more houses tomorrow after church, one of them being my "dream house" (2 story, big wrap-around porch), so we won't make an offer until after that. But this one we saw today is a definite possibility. It's well below our budget, so we'd be saving a lot by buying it. And it has a big yard, very nice renovated inside so there's no extra work to do on it, a ready-made firepit, and a big deck out back. We're very hopeful and excited about this one. Praying that no one makes an offer on it while we see the other houses tomorrow.

Day 12

We're going to look at 3 more houses tomorrow, and hopefully this will be our last time looking. We have less than a week to give the apartment our 60 days notice if we're going to move. We're praying that we find something tomorrow, but if not we might have to be content living at the apartment 6 months to a year longer. I'll keep you posted.


Here's what I read in Scripture today.

1 Timothy 1:14-16 "The grace of our Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus. Here is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance: Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners - of whom I am the worst. But for that very reason I was shown mercy so that in me, the worst of sinners, Christ Jesus might display his unlimited patience as an example for those who would believe on him and receive eternal life."

Isn't this good news? :)

Day 11

Here's a fun quiz that I filled out in 2011. I'll keep my answers from that year, and add what my answers are today. Maybe you'll learn something about me from it. :)

What was your:

1. Last beverage: 2011: water -- Today: water

2. Last phone call: 2011: Mom -- Today: Quentin

3. Last text message: 2011: Anna -- Today: Quentin

4. Last song you listened to: 2011: One Thing Remains -- Today: Getting Into You by Relient K

5. Last time you cried: 2011: Can't remember last time I actually cried, but I came close to it last Friday (got lost on the way to the girls' retreat).  -- Today: at the OBGYN a few weeks ago, when they did a procedure to take out some of my endometrium. It was about 5 times worse than the worst cramps I'd ever had.

Have you ever:

6. Dated someone twice: 2011: nope, never dated -- Today: nope, one time was all I needed. :)

7. Been cheated on: 2011: no -- Today: No way, I'm married to the most faithful man I know!

8. Kissed someone & regretted it: 2011: Nope. But I've only ever kissed my family members. -- Today: No. The only one I've kissed in a romantic way is my husband, and I definitely don't regret it.

9. Lost someone special: 2011: yes -- Today: Hm, I don't think so.

10. Been depressed: 2011: yep, definitely. But because of my Savior, it didn't last long. -- Today: yes, but again, God helped me through it.

11. Been drunk and threw up: 2011: absolutely not. -- Today: nope, never been drunk

List 3 favorite colors: (all of these are still the same today!)

12. purple

13. blue

14. green

This year have you:

15. Made a new friend: 2011: Yep, all my fellow classmates and my new co-workers. And I got to know some people from church better.  -- Today: Not really. Does my kitty count?

16. Fallen out of love: 2011: never been in love -- Today: nope, I'm very much in love.

17. Laughed until you cried: 2011: nope. Guess I need more laughter in my life... -- Today: nope

18. Met someone who changed you: 2011: Oh yes, many wonderful people. -- Today: not really

19. Found out who your true friends were: 2011: hmm... don't think so. I think all my friends are true friends -- Today: kinda I guess

20. Found out someone was talking about you: 2011: yes, but it wasn't anything bad -- Today: yes, but it was good things

21. Kissed anyone on your friend's list: 2011: yes, my family members -- Today: yes, my hubby

22. How many people on your friends list do you know in real life: 2011: almost all of them -- Today: all of 'em :)

23. How many kids do you want: 2011: however many God gives -- Today: I'd like to have 4

24. Do you have any pets: 2011: my family has a bird, but I don't have pets of my own. -- Today: yes, a sweet cat named Mabel

25. Do you want to change your name: 2011: nope, I like my name. :) -- Today: actually, I did change my last name this year, when I got married. But I don't want to ever change it again.

26. What did you do for your last birthday: 2011: Sadly, I can't remember. =/ -- Today: I hung out with my family at my parents' house, and Mom made a peppermint chocolate cake.

27. What time did you wake up today: 2011: 6:00am -- Today: I woke up multiple times, but I got out of bed a little before 7am.

28. What were you doing at midnight last night: 2011 and Today: definitely sleeping

30. Last time you saw your Mother: 2011: I'm sitting in the same room as her. :) -- Today: 4 days ago, for her birthday celebration

31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life: 2011: that I could be more others-focused instead of self-focused. -- Today: that I would be more disciplined

32. What are you listening to right now: 2011: the movie The Blind Side -- Today: the wind in the trees outside my open window.

33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: not that I remember (same)

34. Who's getting on your nerves right now: no one (same)

35. Most visited webpage: 2011: definitely Facebook -- Today: Realtor.com 'cause we're looking for a house

36. What's your real name: 2011: Emily Sweigart -- Today: Emily Whitaker

37. Nicknames: 2011: Em, Emmy, Em'n'Em, Emilia  -- Today: Em, Emzee, Em'n'Em, Sweetie, Cutie, Darling

38. Relationship Status: 2011: single  -- Today: married! (still kinda hard to believe that)

39. Zodiac sign: no idea, don't pay attention to that stuff (same)

40. Male or female: female (same, obviously)

41. Primary School: Sweigart Academy (same, it was the best school ever!)

42. Secondary School: Sweigart Academy (same again)

43. High school/college: Sweigart Academy, Southeastern Institute (same yet again)

44. Hair color: brown (same same same)

45. Long or short: long (same)

46. Height: 2011: 5 feet even -- Today: technically I'm 4 ft. 11 and 3/4 inches

47. Do you have a crush on someone: 2011: yes, unfortunately. -- Today: yes, my handsome husband Quentin

48: What do you like about yourself: 2011: my eyes and my hair -- Today: that I'm small, 'cause Quentin loves my smallness

49. Piercings: just one in each ear (same today)

50. Tattoos: 2011: nope -- Today: yes, I have a Scripture verse on my left ankle

51. Righty or lefty: righty (same, don't know if anyone ever changes which hand is dominant

Firsts: (all of these are the same today that they were in 2011)

52. First surgery: I've never had surgery

53. First piercing: my ears, when I was 13

54. First best friend: my 2 sisters =D

55. First sport you joined: never played sports

56. First vacation: that I remember - the Outer Banks of NC

58. First pair of trainers: idk

Right now:

59. Eating: 2011: cookies. -- Today: nothing, but I ate a yummy salad a few minutes ago

60. Drinking: 2011: nothing -- Today: water

61. I'm about to: 2011: go to bed, once the movie is over -- Today: get a cupcake from the pantry for dessert

62. Listening to: 2011: The Blind Slide movie -- Today: this is a repeat question. the wind in the trees outside

63. Waiting for: 2011: my acne to go away, without having to go to the dermatologist -- Today: the right house for us, hope we find it soon

Your Future:

64. Want kids: 2011: sure, if I ever get married -- Today: yep! I hope they have curly hair like Quentin did when he was little :)

65. Get married: 2011: Whenever God says it's time. -- Today: I got married 6 months ago :)

66. Career: 2011: Massage Therapist -- Today: stay-at-home wife and mom (aka homemaker)

Which is better?

67. Lips or eyes: eyes (same)

68. Hugs or kisses: 2011: hugs!  -- Today: hmm, now that I'm married, I do both a lot. Not sure which I like better.

69. Shorter or taller: shorter. more on my level, and shorter can squeeze in small spaces. (I'd say the same today. Though, I am thankful that Quentin is tall.)

70. Older or  younger: older, they have more wisdom. (same)

71. Romantic or spontaneous: 2011: both -- Today: romantic

72. Nice stomach or nice arms: nice arms (same. I love my hubby's strong arms)

73. Sensitive or confident: 2011: both -- Today: sensitive

74. Hook-up or relationship: relationship (definitely same today)

Have you ever: (all these are the same, sorry for being boring)

76. Kissed a stranger: nope

77. Drank hard liquor: no.

78. Lost glasses/contacts: yeah, I lost my reading glasses once. But I found 'em again.

79. Blahblahblahblahblah: sure, I've said blahblahblah before. (not sure if this is what this means)

80. Broken someone's heart: I don't think so.

82. Been arrested: nope

83. Turned someone down: yes. I've gotten invited to a few things that I had to say no.

84. Cried when someone died: yes.

Do you believe in:

86. Yourself: 2011: no -- Today: sometimes

87. Miracles: yes (same)

88. Love at first sight: 2011: maybe -- Today: Yes, that's what happened to Quentin when he met me. :)

89. Heaven: yes (same)

90. Santa Claus: nope (same)

91. Kiss on the first date: nope, that's way too soon (same)

Answer truthfully:

94. Had more than 1 girlfriend/boyfriend at a time: 2011: nope, never had one -- Today: No. When I dated Quentin, I was not looking around for another guy. Why would anyone do that anyway?

95. Did you sing today: 2011: yes, at church -- Today: no

96. Ever cheated on somebody: no. (same today)

97. If you could go back in time, how far would you go: 2011: I think I'd go back to "old time London". -- Today: I'd go back to the time when there was no electricity and most people knew how to grow veggies.

98. The moment you would choose to relive: 2011: every Rekindle! :) -- Today: hm, there are so many good moments to choose from! But if I have to pick just one, I'd say the moment Quentin and I kissed after being pronounced husband and wife. :)

99. Are you afraid of falling in love: 2011: yes, unfortunately -- Today: nope. if I was afraid, I'd be in trouble, 'cause I am in love with Quentin.

Day 10

One third of the way through this 30-day challenge. :)

Random fact Wednesday: I like number puzzles, Sudoku in particular, more than I like letter puzzles such as Boggle or crosswords. They're just so much more fun to me. Maybe the fact that I've always struggled with spelling has something to do with it. Or the fact that I enjoyed math in school.
I enjoy working with numbers too, such as calculating a budget. I also seem to remember numbers better that the spelling of words. For example, if I had to copy down a specific number (like a phone number) I can usually look at it once and remember it. But if I have to write the name of a street or something, I have to check a few times to get it copied correctly. I've never been good at road names either. I usually get places by looking at landmarks, so if you ask me how to get somewhere, I'll say something like "Take a left at the second road after the Walmart and then look for the elementary school and turn right."
Yeah, I like numbers a lot better than letters.   

Day 9

I can choose to be grateful.

Instead of complaining about the extremely low water pressure in our apartment, I can be grateful that we have clean water coming directly to us with the turn of a faucet.
Instead of complaining that I have to wash dishes, I can be grateful for dish soap and the fact that we have dishes that need to be washed 'cause that means we have food on our plates.
Instead of complaining about "lady stuff", I can be grateful that my body is functioning properly.
Instead of complaining when I make a mistake, I can be grateful that I will learn from it and do better next time.
Instead of complaining about exercising, I can be grateful for the ability to move my muscles efficiently. (some people can't, you know)
Instead of complaining when I get bored, I can be grateful that I have some down time instead of having to work all the time.

I hope that every time I'm tempted to complain, I can turn it around and be grateful instead. It does make me feel more blessed when I do that. :) You should try it!

Day 8

At this time 6 months ago (March 21), Quentin and I had just gotten married. Hard to believe it's been half a  year already! We've had numerous ups and downs already, but overall there have been more ups. :) We've grown closer together since our wedding day. We're still learning how to best love each other and live together in peace. It's a fun time!

In other news, I took Mabel outside on a leash and harness for the first time this morning. She seemed to like exploring. :)

Day 7

Happy birthday, Mom!

This beautiful lady is celebrating her birthday today. :) I'm so blessed to have her as my mom. Until I have my own children, I will never know exactly how much she sacrificed for me. Here are some things I'm thankful for about Mom. (this is not a complete list! I could go on for a long time)

- for teaching me how to clean and do laundry
- for letting me help cook dinner, even when I wasn't that much of a help
- for putting up with all the phone calls when I was going through anxiety attacks
- for making my favorite peppermint cake every year for my birthday
- for learning how to keep chickens and have a veggie garden, so we could have fresh eggs and veggies (once we get a house, I'll want to learn too!)
- for being very generous with your time and resources
- for getting excited for me when I share something I'm excited about
- for loving me very well

I love you Mom, and look forward to celebrating with you in a few hours!
 

Day 6

This is Quentin. I am writing in place of my sweet wife Emily.

Waiting, Working, and Thriving

It is very hard for me to wait when I see something that I want especially when it seems I have no control over the outcome.

One question I am pondering is how do waiting and working find their balance and do they support or contradict each other? Waiting and working seem to contradict each other at first glance. As I reflect on my life it seems that waiting is a central to making me thrive and giving me drive in life.

A few realities and/or beliefs seem to guide my viewpoint on waiting.

I Have No Control

Circumstances happen. we can divert their outcome at times but every circumstance seems to be integrally tied to the next and the next. Thus, we can influence our course but our ultimate course is beyond our ability to decipher or control.

Proverbs 16:9 says "The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps." Even one that denies the reality of God still faces reality. Control is an illusion. Every decision we make, every goal we set is moderated and ultimately at the mercy of a million circumstances. We do what is within our grasp; we have no control over what is in our grasp (if we are honest). Thus, we have no control over the outcome of our decisions or choices. We do not decide where we are born, the economic status of our family, who we know, etc. Although we have control of some circumstances this is only within the realm/ bounds of our given opportunities.

God Is In Control

God is the only viable being to have control of our steps.  All others would fail at the mercy of "mother nature". "Mother nature" is, in fact, no mother at all. Nature has no ability to produce anything sustainable; it lies at the mercy of entropy/disorder. Why is the world sustained if the second law of thermodynamics is fundamental? I am not a scientist (just a plant/horticulture nerd) but it seems that there is likely no viable explanation for the relative order and sustainability of the universe amid its tendency to disorder.What holds it together?

Hope Is Tangible

God sustains. God is good. God is sovereign. God is Just. God is love. God is the God of ALL grace. God is the Gospel (Good News). These truths are at the core of real tangible hope. 

Biblical hope.... lasting hope... God-given hope is not merely a "hope". Hope is a tangible confidence in an unshakable reality. Hope is based on what we see... not with our physical eyes, but see nonetheless. Eyesight based hope (i.e. immediate circumstances) is temporary since it is based on the immediate rather than the long term. Lasting hope defines the present by the future. We do not know the future but, when God steps in, through Christ, his powerful grace unleashes his love in such a way that nothing can steal your future. As a Christian I know my future. I do not know the intricate details but I know that all that happens in the present has purpose. It has the purpose of an all-satisfying, all-good, all-just, all-loving, all-gracious Lord who is holding on to me no matter how well I grasp on to Him. His hold on me keeps me holding on to Him.

Waiting Is Flourishing

Waiting is hard but less and less so the more I grasp onto these realities. The more I see Christ, the more I see God, the more I see life... as an amazing gift. All things are fulfilled (in their purpose) in Him. Popcorn is worthless unless there is a microwave. So it is with life. Life is worthless, we are worthless, until there is God... until there is Christ... until there is the Gospel of God in Christ.

Rabbit Trail....The Good News (Gospel) In Short:

Isaiah 53:6 All we like sheep have gone astray;

we have turned—every one—to his own way;

rand the Lord has laid on him

the iniquity of us all.

John 6:40 For this is the will of my Father, that everyone who looks on the Son and believes in him should have eternal life, and I will raise him up on the last day.”

John 17:3 And this is eternal life, that they know you the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent. 

Waiting is flourishing.Waiting is hinged on our view of the hope we have in Christ. For the individual that stakes his life on/ hopes, rests in the gospel of God's amazing grace in Christ waiting (through suffering) produces perseverance, perseverance produces character, character produces hope and hope does not disappoint us. (Romans 5:1-5) Hope is what drives us. Hope is what guides us.  Hope is what anchors us. (Heb 6:19-20) A tree that thrives is the tree that is anchored and planted by streams of water. (Psalm 1) Hope produces waiting. Waiting is flourishing. 

Waiting Produces Working

Isaiah 40:31 "[...]they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;

they shall mount up with wings like eagles;

they shall run and not be weary;

they shall walk and not faint."

Working or growing seems to be a direct byproduct of waiting. Waiting/ trusting in God's gracious sovereignty is the key to flourishing. Humans are dependent creatures and flourishing never happens outside of deep rooting in the gospel of grace. Flourishing produces active, fruitful growth. 

Waiting is resting. Waiting and anxiety never coexist. When we trust, we rest. When we rest we wait.

Growth is work... God's work (primarily) but work nonetheless. Rest produces work in proportion to the degree in which we rest in his grace. Our resting produces perseverance. Our resting produces hope. Our resting and hoping produces more resting. 

Praise God for his amazing gift of resting and waiting on His amazing grace!

Day 5

Happy Friday! :)

Here's what I read in Scripture today:

1 Thessalonians 2:13-15
But we ought always to thank God for you, brothers loved by the Lord, because from the beginning God chose you to be saved through the sanctifying work of the Spirit and through belief in the truth. He called you to this through our gospel, that you might share in the glory of our Lord Jesus Christ. So then, brothers, stand firm and hold to the teachings we passed on to you, whether by word of mouth or by letter.

It's a good reminder that we are saved through the Spirit and through faith in the gospel (the truth), not through our own goodness or religious practices. And it's amazing that we get to share in the glory of Jesus. We do not deserve that, but yet God generously gives it to us. He is so gracious and merciful.

Restart Day 4

Alright, I've made it to where I made it the first time with this 30 day challenge. Here's hoping I can go farther this time and finish.

The past 2.5 weeks I've been helping Quentin install a landscaping job for some people from church. It's fun watching it come together! We're still not finished yet, but we're getting there. I'll hopefully have a picture when it's done. :)
Through helping with this planting job, I've learned a lot of new plant varieties, such as sunshine ligustrum and spiked speedwell. I've also learned that I am not a slow gardener. By the time I plant one plant, Quentin is finishing his third. It's cool how fast he can plant things. He does a great job too! One day I might be fast and careful, but right now I'm just careful.

Restart Day 3

Why not do a random fact Wednesday? I did those a while ago, and haven't been keeping up. So, random fact: I don't use shampoo. Instead I use a mix of  baking soda and water. And instead of conditioner, I use apple cider vinegar mixed with water and some lavender essential oil. (the oil overpowers the vinegar smell) This saves me money on buying shampoo, and it's better for my hair too 'cause it doesn't have any added chemicals. Might sound weird, but I like it - it makes my hair soft. :)

Another random fact: Today on my TimeHop app, it said that the song Jingle Bells was written 158 years ago. I didn't know it was that old. I still sing it sometimes at Christmas, and hear it on the radio. Guess it is a true classic.

Restart Day 2

Autumn is coming! We've slept with the windows open the past 2 nights, and haven't run the a/c. This cool weather is my favorite!

In other news, Quentin and I are house hunting. We've seen 8 houses so far, and I don't think any of them are quite the right one for us even though we have really liked a few. But we're not giving up. We know the God has the right house for us somewhere, even if it means staying in our apartment for another year to wait for the house to be on the market. I will keep you updated on our search. :)

Restart Day 1

I missed a day already, so I'm starting back at day 1. I'm gonna get through this time!

I like taking recipes and experimenting with modifications. Sometimes they don't turn out so good, like the time I made lemon bread using dates instead of sugar and applesauce instead of oil. (one word: doughy) But other times they turn out great, like a cookie recipe I tried.

Doesn't it look yummy?

Here's the original recipe, from cupcakesomg.blogspot.com

1 cup almond butter
1/4 cup honey
1 egg
1/2 tsp. baking soda
1/2 tsp. salt
1/4 cup chocolate chips (optional)

Mix all ingredients together. Place by spoonfuls onto cookie sheet lined with parchment paper. Bake at 350 degrees for 8-10 minutes.


And, here is my variation. Same mixing instructions, just slightly different ingredients.

1/2 cup peanut butter
1/2 cup almond meal
1/4 cup honey
1 flax egg (1 Tbls. ground flax seed mixed with 3 Tbls. water, let sit for 2 minutes)
1/2 tsp. baking soda

1/2 tsp. salt
1/4 cup chocolate chips (optional)

You should try out both recipes some time. :) And have fun experimenting with your own recipe modifications!

Day 4

Last night we went to a parenting class with our church, 'cause it's never too early to start getting prepared. Seriously. A few couples there said, "I wish we would have gone to a class like this before we had kids." We are blessed to be able to get guidance before kids.

One thing that stood out to me was that the Bible is not a manual for parenting, it is a framework. God never goes into detail about how you should raise your children. He gives you guidelines. Then He gives you wisdom when you ask for it in prayer - wisdom to know the more specific ways you can/should raise the children He gives you. Aside from the guidelines in Scripture, there is no "right way" to be a parent.

This comes as a relief, 'cause I know I don't have to do everything "right", but it also is intimidating 'cause I know I have to figure things out when the time comes. However, I have hope knowing that God will show me the best way to raise children and the grace to do it too, if I come to Him and ask for help.

God is good!

Day 3

One year ago today, I bought my wedding dress. Hard to believe it's been a whole year - seams like only a few months ago. It only took a little over 2 hours to find the perfect dress for me. My consultant did a great job!

When I picked out my dress 1 year ago, that's when I started feeling like I was actually going to get married. I thought "Oh my goodness, this is really happening!" It was a good feeling. :)

Day 2

I've been reading a book called Trusting God, which is very helpful. It helped me see that I have a lot of growing to do in this area - I tend to be anxious instead of trusting Him. Here's a quote from the book.

"We are in the hands of a sovereign God who controls every circumstance of our lives and who rejoices in doing us good (see Jeremiah 32:41)."
"God does have a purpose and a plan for you, and God has the power to carry out that plan."
"Because we know God is directing our lives to an ultimate end and because we know He is sovereignly able to orchestrate the events of our lives toward that end, we can trust Him."

This is so encouraging! :)

30 day challenge - day 1

I'm challenging myself to post something on this blog for 30 days in a row. Not just a meaningless "here's my post for today", but something worthwhile. If I miss a day, I start over. We'll see how this goes.

So, you know how when you use a juicer, there's a lot of vegetable/fruit "meat" leftover? I've come up with two yummy ideas to use the pulp/flesh/meat instead of throwing it in the trash.
1) Mix it with some oats and seasonings, squish it together, form a round patty, and fry it in a pan on the stove. Now you have a veggie burger!
2) Mix in some seasonings, stir-fry it with oil, and add it to rice or noodles (by itself is great too). Voila, healthy, tasty vegetable stir-fry.

You could probably use it in bread as well, like for zucchini or carrot bread, just be sure to squeeze out any excess juice first.

Have fun juicing! :)